Tennov says Limerence enters your life at a pleasant time. He says that it can be an aold friend that you now see in a new light. Or a new person that has just entered your life but has already made a significant impact on you. He says it has to do with romantic feelings that develop for another person unconsciously. It has to do with strong feelings that can lead to obsession and or infatuation of another person. I interpreted this as the feelings one gets once they realize they are attracted to someone. Anything can trigger a feeling of limerence: eye contact, a friendly hello from another person, a smile or just the person being within eye-sight can trigger these feelings. I feel like limerence is what sparks ones interest to possibly eventually pursue another person. When I first met my boyfriend he was just a friend. Both being in other relationships I never imagined starting our own relationship. However, I found myself thinking about him often when my ex-boyfriend and I separated. He made me feel like I was on top of the world just by smiling in my direction and saying hello. I was constantly thinking “oh he noticed me?” and it made me want to find out more about him. Once we made our relationship official I felt even more drawn to him and he was all I could think about at all hours of the day. I believe that everyone experiences feelings of limerence and the way we react to these feelings is what eventually sparks something more than what we are already feeling.
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